He was an L.A. guy who had it all. Was I dating a unicorn?

We did not fulfill on the applications we satisfied in a plaza in Colombia. I was about to change 30 and none of my mates could get the time off to be part of me on a birthday excursion, so I decided to go by itself. I arrived at my hostel in Bogotá jet-lagged, but thrilled. The receptionist urged me to check out a free of charge going for walks tour that was just about to get underway. I approached the ready team of Europeans, most coupled up or touring with good friends.

A tall male with piercing blue eyes joined us as perfectly. He was the only other solo traveler in the group.

Although flavor-tests tropical fruit at the farmers marketplace, we learned that we equally hailed from L.A. and grew up fewer than 5 miles absent from every single other. No, neither of us drank espresso nor knew Spanish very perfectly, but listed here we ended up backpacking in Colombia. We even experienced a similar journey agenda.

After the tour, we exchanged Whatsapp figures and agreed to satisfy up later to go view the sunset atop Monserrate. In the course of our wander to the cable motor vehicle that would get us to our spot, we talked about the normal — touring on a spending budget, how most of our close friends ended up finding engaged or procreating, and how costly rent is in L.A. We were our have model of Jesse and Céline a la “Before Sunrise” besides we were being wandering the art-crammed streets of La Candelaria.

They say if you can vacation together, you’ll have achievement as a few.

We coordinated our schedules to meet up 1 other time in the course of that journey, in Medellín, the city of everlasting spring. We ditched the sweaters and jackets we wore in Bogotá for limited-sleeved shirts and bug spray. About evening meal he admitted he went on a Tinder date with a Colombian woman the evening right before, but he told me he felt much more of a link with me. Navigating the nightlife in Parque Lleras, he recommended we check out a area liquor referred to as aguardiente.

“This variety of feels like a date… Here’s to us!” he toasted confidently. He was charming.

I puzzled whether he’d call when we were the two back again in California. I didn’t wait long. I arrived house on a Friday night time, and by Sunday he’d strike me up to seize tacos. Of program I said indeed. Tacos are my love language. We complained about the culture shock we felt staying again property and how we missed Colombian hospitality and the low-priced (and unlawful) ride sharing. I had absent to South The us and introduced again a North American memento — a dude who just transpired to be great-seeking, used, journey savvy, available and neighborhood.

He’s a unicorn, I thought. He seemed way too superior to be correct.

We used the future several months making an attempt to re-make the spontaneity and romance of our time abroad.

He took me to the 73rd ground of the Wilshire Grand Heart at sunset and we reminisced about that other sunset see we shared in Bogotá. We experimented with to maintain our Cartagena tans by sunbathing at Speedo-laden Will Rogers Point out Seashore. We laughed remembering about the intense vendors at Playa Blanca, and lamented that we could not enjoy an ice cold Aguila on the shorelines of California.

Our dates took us on leisurely walks checking out L.A. neighborhoods, ducking into random bookshops and checking out farmers markets as if we had been vacationers in our have town. The only distinction was we had been sampling Asian pear and seasonal peaches rather of lulo and papaya.

I simply cannot pinpoint accurately why our getaway affair did not translate into a marriage back in Los Angeles.

Did our family vacation personalities mesh improved when dinner expense fewer than $10, like beverages and neither of us had get the job done the upcoming working day? Probably it is easier to navigate being hangry in a foreign state with each other than negotiating L.A. targeted traffic from Echo Park to Sherman Oaks attempting to make a midweek hike.

Underneath the California sunlight, our variations, even though insignificant when traveling overseas, arrived to light. The foodie in me is constantly down to attempt new cuisine, but at household he was considerably less keen to consider lengua tacos and eel rolls. Though he is usually punctual no matter where in the world he is, I admit I’m from time to time jogging on Filipino time. His frugality on vacation appeared simple, but below in California it arrived throughout as cheap. He reported I was a lot more introverted on U.S. soil.

And was it just me or did he glimpse cuter when I was donning holiday goggles?

At some position, we stopped listening to Maluma and Carlos Vives in the course of our car rides and our textual content exchanges bore fewer “mi amors” and “cheveres.” The seasons altered, our tans pale. It was like we fulfilled at summer months camp and then ran out of items to speak about. We weren’t destined to make it to cuffing season.

Our brief-lived L.A. courtship was perhaps a way to extend the holiday.

Amid the bombardment of engagement and pregnancy announcements I have viewed on social media because turning 30, perhaps I was hopeful to come across “the one” anyplace other than a courting app. In actuality, we were just two American tourists who experienced a likelihood come across and just so transpired to increase up in the similar neck of the woods.

When is it serendipity, and when are we reading into a coincidence?

However, when I see the lights of the Wilshire Grand Center downtown, I keep in mind the person I met on the streets of Bogotá who could have been my soulmate.

The writer will work in the health care marketplace and is a freelance author.

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